"What happens when you add pretending to be nice and evading the question?"

It leads to confusing and unpredictable results. It's a trap of avoidance strategies and pretending to be nice, or in simpler terms, the worst.

Evading the question, that is, giving an answer that is completely unrelated to the question, is often found in conversations. This behavior usually stems from an intention to avoid a difficult situation.

When the other person's question or request is uncomfortable or burdensome, or when they want to hide the truth, evading the question becomes a very useful tool.

If the element of 'pretending to be nice' is added to this situation, things become even more complicated.

People who pretend to be nice sugarcoat their words instead of speaking the actual truth or opinion to gain the other person's favor or maintain a positive image.

In the process, the truth or true intention is obscured. This, as Robert Greene put it, is a kind of disarmament strategy, used to charm the other person and hide one's own intentions or goals.

Therefore, when evading the question and pretending to be nice combine, the interaction can unfold like a 'crazy party'.

They avoid answering the other person's questions or requests directly and in a relevant manner, and create a positive image to reassure or attract the other person.

Think about it. It's as frustrating as talking to a wall to not give a proper answer to a question, only stick to your own perspective, and avoid giving the necessary answers.

What if you try to get away from the essence of the problem by using the phrase 'I don't remember' and an apology? Apologizing without a compelling reason is one of the line-drawing strategies to avoid the current problem.

This behavior hinders trust and sincere conversation, and ruins mutual respect and understanding. Even if you try to have a friendly conversation, you will be disappointed by the other person's attitude, and understand that this person will never admit their fault and will stick to their stubbornness.

Even in a business environment, there are people who take this uncooperative attitude.

It's not just a matter of low literacy, but a deliberate strategy to speak to one's own advantage, and it's about packaging one's own selfishness as a pretense of being nice.

If you've ever experienced this type of person, you won't feel like wasting your emotions.

Because there is nothing more foolish in the world than dealing with someone who thinks they are right, not the issue of what is right and justified.

Ultimately, such conversations lack transparency and make actual communication difficult.

In some cases, this behavior may be a naive way for someone in a difficult situation to deal with it. However, what is clear is that avoiding the truth and focusing solely on image management in communication with others ultimately leads to a breakdown of trust.

This attitude is even more difficult to understand in a business setting, because building and maintaining trust is impossible without clear and direct communication.

Therefore, if we want to facilitate communication between each other, we must avoid behaviors like evading the question or pretending to be nice, and strive to communicate honestly with sincerity. This is the basis and asset of true communication that respects each other.

Aggressive, envious, and devious people rarely admit they are. They have learned to disarm us with flattery and other techniques in the first encounter, making them appear charming. When they surprise us with their vile actions, we are left feeling betrayed, angry, and powerless. - Robert Greene