What happens when you add feigning kindness and evasive answers?

"What happens when you combine feigning kindness and irrelevant answers?"

It leads to confusing and unpredictable outcomes. It's a trap of evasion and feigned kindness, or more simply put, the worst-case scenario.

Irrelevant answers, or responding in a way that has nothing to do with the question, are often found in conversations. This behavior usually stems from an intention to avoid difficult situations.

When someone's question or request is uncomfortable or burdensome, or when they want to hide the truth, irrelevant answers become a very useful tool.

If the element of 'feigning kindness' is added to this situation, things become even more complex.

People who feign kindness sugarcoat their words instead of speaking the genuine truth or opinion in order to gain favor or maintain a positive image with others.

In the process, the truth and genuine intentions are obscured. As Robert Greene stated, this is a type of disarming strategy used to charm others and conceal one's intentions or goals.

Therefore, when irrelevant answers and feigning kindness are combined, the interaction can develop into a chaotic situation, like a 'wild party'.

This is because they avoid giving direct and relevant answers to the other person's questions or needs and project a positive image to reassure or gain favor from them.

If you think about it, not providing accurate answers to questions while sticking to your own position and evading necessary responses is as frustrating as talking to a wall.

What if they try to get away from the core issue by using excuses like 'I don't remember' and apologies? Using only apologies without a justifiable reason is a type of boundary-drawing strategy to avoid the current issue.

Such behavior hinders trust and genuine conversation, disrupting mutual respect and understanding. Even if you attempt to engage in a friendly conversation, you may become disappointed with their attitude, perceiving it as a stubborn refusal to acknowledge their mistakes and take responsibility.

Even in a business setting, some individuals adopt this uncooperative attitude.

It's not merely a matter of low literacy but a deliberate strategy to manipulate situations to their advantage, masking their selfishness with a facade of kindness.

If you've encountered this type of person, you likely wouldn't feel the urge to waste your emotions on them.

Because dealing with someone who believes only they are right, regardless of what is correct or just, is one of the most foolish things a person can do.

Ultimately, these conversations lack transparency, making genuine communication difficult.

In some cases, this behavior may be a naive coping mechanism for individuals facing difficult situations. However, it's clear that evading truth and focusing solely on image management in interactions with others ultimately leads to a breakdown of trust.

This attitude is even less understandable in business contexts, as building and maintaining trust is impossible without clear and direct communication.

Therefore, if we want to facilitate smooth communication, we should avoid behaviors like irrelevant answers and feigning kindness, and instead strive to communicate honestly and with sincerity. This is the foundation and asset of genuine communication that respects each other.

Hostile, envious, and cunning individuals rarely admit to being such. They have mastered the art of disarming us with flattery and appearing charming at first encounter. When they shock us with their devious actions, we are left feeling betrayed, angry, and helpless. - Robert Greene