There is no malice, but there are often people who are devilish.

-Don't be too discouraged by such a small thing!

A said this to B as encouragement because B was struggling after ruining an important project. But for B, the project wasn't 'just a small thing.' Even though it was a well-meaning encouragement, B ended up quite hurt. However, B couldn't get angry at the encouragement to cheer up.

Everyone's standards for 'just a small thing' will be very different, but A also knew that B's project was important. Even knowing that, it was hard to see it as cheerful encouragement when A used the word 'just a small thing' while trying to encourage B.

-I had a really happy day. How about you?

If it had been a normal day, this would have been just a normal greeting. But C's family had been in a car accident that day, and A contacted C in this way even knowing that. A probably wanted to ask about C's well-being, but it was so hurtful to C that it felt like A was just showing off how happy they were.

Even if A had a really happy day, wasn't it inappropriate to rub it in C's face when they knew C was going through something bad? Of course, it's true that A may have thought it was their freedom to not hide their happiness, but…

-You must have had a hard time. Don't you have any judgment of people?

A said this to D, who had been scammed. If D had good judgment of people, they wouldn't have been scammed, but that's not how life works. Even if you try to avoid being scammed, it's not easy to perfectly avoid people who are determined to scam you.

From A's perspective, A probably wanted to say that it was important to develop a good sense of people to avoid this kind of unfortunate situation in the future, but was it necessary to blame the victim?

'I wonder if A dislikes me?'

I don't know if A really dislikes the people around them, but it's true that A's overly positive attitude ended up hurting someone. I don't think A is a bad person, they just lack awareness, but there are people who have been hurt by A and have distanced themselves.

It's not always good to be overly positive, even if there's no malice. A's overly positive words are sometimes shining encouragement, but they often turn into terrible daggers for others. It sounds almost like sarcasm when you're talking to someone who's emotionally struggling.

Even though you know there's no malice, it's hard to shake the thought, 'Are they being sarcastic?' when you're on the receiving end. Sometimes I also wonder if A is so positive that they don't even empathize with the negative feelings others might feel.

It's bitter to say that there are people who are devilish even though they have no malice, but there are often people who truly say devilish things without malice... It's bitter.

You have to choose the path that will make you happier, whether you befriend someone who lacks awareness but is overly positive, or whether you distance yourself. Even if you become a bad friend in someone's memory, you have to be happy.