A Devilish Friend with No Malice

While not malicious, there are sometimes people who are devilish.

-Don't get too discouraged over something so trivial!

It was A's encouraging words to B, who was struggling after messing up an important project. However, for B, that project wasn't 'trivial' at all. Although it was a well-intentioned encouragement, it ended up causing B quite a bit of hurt. Still, B couldn't get angry at the encouragement to cheer up.

While the standards for 'trivial' differ greatly for everyone, A also knew that the project B was working on was important. Even knowing that, using the word 'trivial' while offering encouragement didn't seem like entirely positive encouragement.

-I had such a happy day today, how about you?

On a normal day, this would have been just a regular check-in. However, on this particular day, C's family was involved in a traffic accident, and A sent this message knowing that. A may have wanted to convey warm greetings, but it felt like A was just showing off how happy they were, leaving C feeling hurt.

No matter how happy a day one has, is it not inappropriate to flaunt it when someone else is going through a difficult time? Of course, it could be that they're just too happy and don't want to hide it, considering it their freedom to do so.

-Must have been tough. Don't you have any judgment when it comes to people?

This was what A said to D, who had been scammed. If D had better judgment of people, they wouldn't have been scammed, but that's not how human interactions work. Even if one is careful to avoid being scammed, it's not easy to completely avoid someone who is determined to scam them.

From A's perspective, they may have wanted to emphasize the importance of developing better judgment to avoid such unfortunate incidents in the future. But was it necessary to blame the victim?

'Is A perhaps dislikes me?'

Whether A genuinely dislikes those around them is unknown, but it's true that A's overly positive nature has hurt some people. While not a bad person, simply lacking social awareness, there are those who have been hurt by A and distanced themselves.

It's not always good to be overly positive and say only positive things, even if you don't mean any harm. A's overly positive words sometimes shine as encouragement, but they often become a painful dagger to others. It sounds like sarcasm when said to someone who is emotionally struggling.

Even knowing that they don't mean any harm, when you're on the receiving end, it's hard to shake the feeling of 'Are they being sarcastic?' Sometimes, you wonder if A is completely oblivious to the negative emotions others might feel because they're so positive.

It's a bittersweet thing to say, but 'while not malicious, there are sometimes people who are devilish'… because there are people who say devilishly hurtful things without any malicious intent. It's bittersweet.

Whether to keep a socially unaware but overly positive person as a friend or to keep a distance, you should choose the path that leads to your own happiness. Even if you end up as a bad friend in someone's memory, you need to be happy yourself.