Will Being Kind Truly Lead to Happiness?

People often emphasize the virtue of 'kindness'. In our childhood, kindness was considered an ideal behavior and one of the essential virtues for gaining love and recognition. However, as years go by, I've started to question whether kind actions truly bring me happiness.

"It's all good."

Along with kindness, the phrase 'it's all good' is frequently used. I often held back from unpleasant situations with this mindset. However,Is it truly 'all good'? When someone says 'it's all good', whose perspective of 'good' are they referring to? I believe in karma, but sometimes I'm left wondering if 'good' truly equates to 'good' in every instance.

In her book, <Why Doesn't That Person Apologize?>, author Seoram Yoon states that regardless of the environment, the ways malicious people harm those around them are not significantly different.

The hypocritical attitude of 'It's okay for me, but not for you,' and the ability to lie without batting an eye, even if it's obvious, are common traits of narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths, whom we consider villains. Also, they often claim to be victims when problems arise. These are common characteristics of people we refer to as villains. There might be differences in degree, but there are striking similarities in the way they torment others.

-Why Doesn't That Person Apologize?, Seoram Yoon, Bom-e

Whether we like it or not, we encounter individuals with these characteristics in life. Through these encounters, we naturally realize that 'it's all good' isn't always the case, and that simply living a kind life doesn't always guarantee happiness. Furthermore, we come to understand how the virtue of kindness and the phrase 'it's all good' can be twisted and used by malicious individuals when it suits them.

"Does living a kind life truly lead to happiness?"

This is a complex question that can vary depending on the situation.Kindness may not always lead to happiness, and sometimes it's necessary to prioritize protecting our own rights and principles, even if it means sacrificing kindness.Ultimately, the important question is: for whom, and to whom, should we strive to be kind?