The Difference Between Vanity and Pride

When sharing our work, whether it's an image or a piece of writing, it's inevitable that a hint of pride will be conveyed. The key here is to distinguish whether that pride stems from vanity or genuine self-respect.

Individuals driven by vanity have a clear intention to show off their accomplishments, which becomes evident in the flow of conversation. In contrast, the pride of someone with genuine self-respect originates from sincere self-affirmation and gratitude for their achievements.

This difference is clearly communicated to the listener. Vanity primarily values external validation and the opinions of others, while self-respect places greater importance on inner satisfaction and self-actualization.

Ultimately, the fine line between vanity and self-respect when sharing our achievements depends on what values we prioritize. If we truly cherish our accomplishments and value the lessons and experiences gained during the process, that's a sign of healthy self-respect, and it will have a positive impact on others.

▶ Delusions of expectation placed upon the minds of others we don't know make us unhappy. Instead, we should not care what others say. At the root of this lies greed and attachment.

▶ If vanity is the desire to receive applause from others that is greater than one's actual appearance, then self-respect is a firm conviction in one's own strengths. If vanity is a hope that relies on the minds of others, then self-respect is a direct, high evaluation of oneself from within one's own mind. Anyone can have it if they are confident in their own strengths and values.

▶ Unshakable self-respect, where one affirms one's own worth, is the most crucial element in the conditions for happiness.

-Kang Yong-su, Schopenhauer for the Forties