They say being busy is an excuse, but there are truly busy people in this world. Those who have lived a busy life will understand those who are struggling in their busyness. Friend A told me that their acquaintance said to them, "You look busier than the president. Stop pretending to be busy." It might sound like a simple joke, but A was quite hurt, and sighed, not knowing why they should be subjected to such remarks when they couldn't even eat properly every day and worked hard.

Will you live my life for me?

Everyone plays many roles in their own lives, spending their days on them. The stress and pressure we experience in this process exist for each of us for our own reasons, and busyness takes different forms for each person. My busyness is a fight of my own that is invisible to others, so it might look like I'm making a fuss over nothing. Perhaps from others' perspectives, A might have looked like they were busy doing nothing. However, that's only from others' perspectives. We can't live according to others' eyes and standards. There's no need to do so either.

I hope A would focus on doing their job diligently rather than being hurt by others' sarcastic remarks, even for their own future successful selves. It might be hard for ordinary people to be busier than the president, but there can be reasons for their busyness. And being busier than the president doesn't make someone more worthy of living a busy life.

"Stop pretending to be busy" is ultimately a subjective judgment based on one's own experiences and perspective. We are each the protagonist of our own lives, and the busyness within them is our own story. We are entitled to live our lives honestly, not according to others' judgments. So for now, whether it looks like you're pretending to be busy in others' eyes or not, I encourage you to keep living your life as diligently as you are.

※ Psychological reasons for those who mock others

1. Those who mock others can indirectly express their dissatisfaction or envy. They compare their own lives or achievements with those of others who are busy, and they express their feelings of inferiority or envy through mocking remarks.

2. Some people might choose to mock others because they find it difficult to express their opinions or thoughts directly, or because they want to avoid conflict. In such cases, behind the mocking remarks, there might be constructive criticism or opinions, but the way they are expressed makes communication more difficult and leads to misunderstandings.

3. The desire to feel superior in social relationships can also play a role. Mocking others can be a way of indirectly showing off one's own status or abilities. This can be used as a way to increase one's self-esteem or establish one's social position.

4. Some people may simply use mocking language as a habit. In such cases, mocking becomes their communication style, and they may not intend to hurt others. However, it's important to be aware that this habit can lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts in relationships with others.

5. Mocking can also reflect one's unstable emotional state. Mocking remarks that come from negative emotional states such as stress, anxiety, or depression often arise when someone is unable to properly express or handle their emotions.